What kind of man would he be?

We go through our entire lives wanting to be picked by men. We are groomed from early childhood to believe in fairytales. The search to find the "one" is constantly on our minds. We are conditioned to think that something is wrong with us if we haven't been married by the age of thirty. Many women feel pressured by this and end up settling for less than they deserve. The need for validation increases and ultimately turns into desperation. This is why emotional intelligence is so important. We all want love. I’m a firm believer that we are here to love and be loved. But at what cost? I’m not willing to settle. I choose a life with my dream man or a full life on my own. I get to choose, and you do too.

What would your dream man embody?

My dream man would be everything that my heart desires.

He will be a man of character and integrity. I want him to be respected and admired for being a man of value.

He must be a great leader. I love a man who can make emotionally intelligent decisions, and take charge. I'm a leader in my personal and professional life, so it's a must that he be equipped to lead me.

He has to love his mother or be willing to seek therapy to heal from his mother wound. I love and admire how men adore and protect their mother. Little boys are wired to feel this way, so if he doesn't, therapy is needed. The way he feels about her will affect your relationship.

He must have a career (something that he is passionate about) and be financially stable. I have a career that I have invested in for over 15 years. I make a great living. I can take care and provide for myself, so I need a man who can also do those things.

He will be business minded. I look at all things from a business perspective. You should too.

Regardless if you have a man or not. You are a business. You need to manage you and your life. When you come together, it's an exchange of power. This is known as a Power Couple. Someone who has this thought process will br more likely to work things out, because they want to protect their investment (which is your life together).

He will have conflict resolution skills. I am very solution driven. I need a man who is willing to find solutions to our problems so we can quickly move forward.

He will be able to communicate. I don't deal well with passive aggression. I need you to speak up and tell me how you feel. We should have a safe space for both us to express ourselves.

His spirit must be child-like. I have a very youthful spirit. I need to be with someone who aligns with that. He must be witty and love a good laugh. I love adventures, so he has to be spontaneous.

He must be family oriented. I'm huge on family and friends. Someone who takes care of his family will always be great. That goes back to being a great leader, a man of character and integrity.

These are some of the things that I look for while I'm dating. This allows you to put men in two categories. Husbae or friend. This prevents you from wasting your time. I want you to think about what your dream man embodies. Focus on that. Don't let an imposter steal his spot.

Now that we have an idea, let's stay focused on managing our life right now. Operate from a place of abundance and not lack. Your dream man is out there, but you will never meet him by settling. Do not operate from a scarcity mindset. Do not let society bully you into desperation and depression. If you believe in a higher power and the universe it's all in divine timing. This is why it is so vital to love and work on yourself. The universe will manifest the perfect match. Besides, would you prefer to live a life of depression attached to someone who makes you miserable, or would you rather manage your life and enjoy it. I prefer to be patient and manage me. It hasn't disappointed me yet.

Think about it.

May 24, 2018

This was a throwback post of me celebrating my independence. Fast forward to now. I love it here!